"Stop making excuses. We all have choices."

November 10, 2018

I was at the Battersea Kagyu Samye Dzong (London) with Lama Yeshe Losal Rinpoche a few months ago. He started his talk with these stark words in the most gentle and firm tone - 'Stop making excuses. We all have choices.' I knew this was going to be an interesting chat. I leaned into the conversation and picked some choice wisdom.

Interestingly as the day progressed I recognised that his words were seeds that were planted in my head which resulted in motivating me and reminding me to practice what I know to be true. I am not a buddhist but the teachings I have to say are relevant to all of us (as from other faiths too). Especially in our exciting, disruptive and busy lives as leaders.

Here are 10 of those 'seeds.' See if they grow on you this week. And if they do what would you do differently in your life?



  1. Many time we all have great ideas. We start enthusiastically. And then we fall back, falter and stop. Key is to continue to make the efforts. Do not stop. Or else we will learn how to fail rather than how to succeed.

  2. Don't keep going from one teacher to another - to learn the same thing. Each time you might be hearing the same thing in a different way. Instead learn to practice and put into action what you have learnt. Don't say you lost faith in your teacher/ need a new teacher. Teachers give you medicine. You need to eat the pill each day - then only will you see the benefits.

  3. Deep rooted habits are difficult to dislodge. Learn how to practice new behaviours and how to stay focused. Eliminate distractions that will dislodge you. Know your strengths and use them.

  4. You don't have to be anyone else. You just need to be a decent human being. That's enough for one life effectively.

  5. We need misery and suffering so we can be put on our true path. But don't be stuck in the past. Reliving moments in your childhood where you had trauma. Learn to live in the present.

  6. Meditation helps you have a calm mind. When you have a calm mind you can make adjustments and be flexible in your life.

  7. Learn to weed out attachment or desire that causes you lot of anger. Anger is first reaction of desire. Things you cant get/ do anger is the first reaction.

  8. Meditation also helps you quick avoid quick reactions. We are sometimes are very quick in our reactions - make quick judgements. Thats when we make mistakes. Meditation helps you pacify your negative energy.

  9. Stop judging other people. Stop finding faults in other people. That is the sign of ignorance.

  10. Focus on being in the present. With no judgement. Be mindful of the moment. Get up each day with gratitude.






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